Couples Therapy in Durham, NC
Sometimes we just need to face things, not fix them.
For individuals and couples who want therapy that get beneath recurring conflict, distance, and self-defeating patterns.
You can’t know what you want and need if you don’t know what you feel.
Life keeps moving and looking fine from the outside. But inside, you feel anxious or numb, or you come down hard on yourself. You can notice the patterns. You may even know where they began. But knowing hasn’t been enough to change them.
In your relationship, the same arguments keep coming back. You try to talk, but one of you gets critical while the other becomes defensive or shuts down. You miss feeling like partners, and you are not sure how to get close again.
Maybe you’ve noticed…
You are tired of judging yourself and trying to think your way through every feeling.
Conflict quickly turns into blame, defensiveness, or silence.
You miss feeling at peace with yourself or with the person you love.
Together, we can understand the feelings and habits that take over, so you can respond differently when it matters most.
I help individuals and couples rebuild connection, improve communication, and learn to navigate conflict so that they can deepen their relationships and live their best lives.
My Specialties:
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Tools and support for communication challenges, recurring conflict, emotional distance, trust, intimacy, and rebuilding a stronger connection. Learn About Couples Therapy →
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Focused, extended sessions for couples facing entrenched conflict, infidelity, major transitions, or an urgent need for meaningful progress. Learn About Couples Intensives →
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Therapy for people pleasing helps you set healthier boundaries, trust your needs, and build relationships without losing yourself in the process. Learn About Therapy for People Pleasing →
Hi, I’m Ben
I work with thoughtful, self-aware couples and individuals who understand their patterns but still find themselves repeating them.
You may know why you withdraw, criticize, people please, or think your way around difficult feelings. But insight alone doesn’t always change what happens when the same patterns keep recurring. I pay attention to more than the story you tell.
You can expect me to be active and engaged in sessions. I listen closely, ask direct questions, and help you notice feelings or protective habits that can be difficult to see on your own. I take the work seriously, but therapy does not need to feel formal or distant.
Here’s how we get started
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Schedule a free consultation
We will talk briefly about what brings you to therapy, what you hope will change, and whether I seem like a good fit for you..
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Complete an assessment
We will take a fuller look at your history, current concerns, relationships, and goals so we know where to begin.
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Begin the work
From there, we will focus on the patterns and feelings that matter most in your daily life and relationships.
Ready to get started?
Something different is possible. It starts with one conversation.